There is a phrase in scripture that I think we overlook all too often. After Eve has taken the forbidden fruit and eaten it says, "And she gave some to her husband, who was with her". Did you catch that? He was there. He stood there and listened to the lies of the serpent, and he didn't do anything. He would walk with God in the garden. Certainly he knew enough about God that he could have refuted the lies that the devil was saying, right? He didn't. He stood there like a dope, listened and then watched as his wife broke the only rule in the Garden.
How often do we do the same thing as men? God has called us to be the spiritual leader in our homes, but how often do we just stand back and let things happen. I know I have. We may let ideas or people come into our homes. They begin to spin these great webs of deceit. We all get that queasy feeling in the bottom of our stomach. We desperately want to say something, and yet we bite our tongues. We let those lies be repeated and repeated. They are repeated so many times that we begin to believe them ourselves. Just stop it. The health of your entire family depends on it. For crying out loud man say something.
I am speaking from my own experience here. If you have that uneasy feeling, then something horrible is likely to happen if you stay quiet. It could be a spouse that is getting overly enthralled with the internet. Perhaps there are friends that you just aren't comfortable with. I urge you to resist the temptation to sit idly by and allow something to come into your home that will destroy it. You may not want to rock the boat, but if you keep your mouth shut you won't even have a boat to worry about. Sometimes conflict and disagreement are necessary parts of family life. I am not saying you should have brawls, but even Jesus became angry when he saw the injustice in the temple.
Jealousy. It often gets a bad wrap in relationships. I know from my upbringing, the jealousy I saw from my dad was unhealthy. We shouldn't try to cage our wives or confine them to a world of our choosing. We should however keep guard, and watch that no deception is able to come between the two of us. I saw the way my dad was jealous of my mom. I promised myself that I would never treat a woman like that. I would not control a woman's every move. I wouldn't continually make false accusations. I am here to tell you that the opposite reaction, the one I have taken, is just as devastating. The bible says that God is a jealous God. So before you write off jealousy keep that in mind. If God is perfect and he is jealous, then there has to be a type of jealousy that is right. If you can not master an appropriate type of jealousy, then someone will come in and destroy your family.
So my advice to you, is that when someone or something comes into your home and you don't feel it is right or Godly, then you owe it to your family to say something. The conflict may last for a day or too, but the damage of silence will rock your very foundations. I will shake up everything you believe in and leave you grasping for answers. The answer was there all along. You knew it the minute you had that sick feeling in the pit of your stomach. If only you would just open your mouth and speak to the deceit, then everything could have been different.